While we try to expose 3 of the best secrets to long lasting love, we wish to remind you that LOVE IS A DECISION AND ITS IS AN EASILY SOLVED MYSTERY OF GIVING
The secrets to lifelong love are quite simple. This is because love is more than a feeling, it is a decision. Lifelong love asks that:
- We maintain positive illusions,
- Be forgiving,
- And laugh often.
We shall expantiate just a little bit on each of the above.
Maintain Positive Illusions of your Partner
Studies and research have shown that: "Men and women who continue to maintain that their partner is attractive, funny, kind, and ideal for them in just about every way remain content with each other."
Also it is important to be mindful of your partner's unique, genuine qualities and stay in touch with these during happy as well as difficult times. Do not bother about what you see in others. If your partner were to have the qualities the other person has, he probably might not have possessed what you saw and loved him or her.
Incorporate forgiveness in your life each day
In Joseph Campbell's in discussion with journalist Bill Moyers on PBS, called "loyalty" the essence of marriage—"not cheating, not defecting—through whatever trials or suffering, you remain true."
Bill Moyers added: "The Puritans call marriage the little church within the church. In marriage, every day you love, and every day you forgive. It is an ongoing sacrament—love and forgiveness."
Love and forgiveness are truly inseparable for as long as you love, you are bound to be hurt by the one you love and thus forgiveness is neccessary and compulsory if you cherish the love you have for him or her
Laugh often With Your Partner Together
Men like women who laugh at their jokes and women prefer men who make them laugh. A small research study found that women rate funny guys as more intelligent than guys who are not so funny.
And in the often-quoted words of actress Joanne Woodward: "Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that's a real treat." you know.
We must note here that it doesn't only go for the men to make their women laugh. Women can do same for their men as perceptions differ and the man might just be a quite type.